Relationships aren't always rainbows and butterflies; sometimes dark clouds and storms can appear suddenly. Most girls wish to have a loving and caring boyfriend as well as a strong yet fun connection. But sometimes we can't get what we want.
All of us deserve to be in a healthy relationship, but once your boyfriend doesn't care anymore, it might turn toxic. It may happen gradually or suddenly. Nevertheless, you deserve to know when he no longer cares about you. Read on to find out the signs he doesn't care about you anymore as well as what you can do about it.
Signs He Doesn't Care About the Relationship
Finding out your boyfriend no longer loves or cares about you can be very painful. It can harm your self-esteem and confidence. But even though it hurts, you must acknowledge the situation before the relationship turns very toxic or you might hurt yourself even further.
Every guy is different and thus, may show his indifference in various ways. However, there are some general signs he doesn't cherish your connection anymore you need to watch out for.
1. He's always too busy
If your boyfriend suddenly gets too busy to spend time with you, then there may be something wrong. No matter how great responsibilities are, guys usually try to make time for girls they care about.
He has the ability to choose between you, his career, his social commitment, and his hobbies.If he chooses all those things above you, then he may think you and your well-being are not worth his time. Neglecting you is one of the signs he is not concerned enough to maintain his relationship with you anymore.
2. You're the one chasing him
Another one of the signs he doesn't care about you anymore is the fact that you feel like you need to chase and beg him to spend time with you. If you feel like you have to beg for his love and attention, that means he just doesn't care.
It may hurt you to accept that no matter how much you chase him, you might lose him. If he doesn't care, then it's over. There's no point in continuing to pursue someone who doesn't want to be with you. You need to have self-love and dignity to realize that you shouldn't have to chase anyone if they truly care for you.
3. You always contact him first
Whether it's via text or call, if you're always the one putting in the effort to hang out or talk to him, then it's clear that he's not very interested in you. Sure, taking the initiative to call him first once in a while is okay. But if he never initiates anything, that's a sign he doesn't care about the relationship.
Again, no matter how many responsibilities he has, he should still take some time to talk to you and ask about your day. If you feel this is happening to you, try not to contact him for a few days and see his reaction. His action will explain everything; then you'll have the option to stay with him or move on with your life.
4. He doesn't spend time with you
Spending some quality time together is one of the keys to maintaining a healthy relationship. So, when he stops wanting to spend time with you, that might mean he no longer cares about it.
Of course, you both have lives outside of the relationship. No one should drop all their responsibilities just to spend time with their partner. But, no matter how busy someone is, they should always be able to spare some time for the person they love. Busy days happen to everyone. But if he neglects you all the time, then he's just making excuses to avoid you.
5. He makes all the decision
Love is all about communicating and making compromises. It's important to make major decisions together. So, if he makes all the decisions without even considering your opinions, then it's clear that this man doesn't see you as an equal partner.
What does this mean? This means that man doesn't care about your opinions nor your feelings. If this happens, you have two choices, confront him or leave him before the relationship poisons your self-confidence. Remember, in a healthy relationship, your opinions matter and you deserve to be happy.
6. He blames you for everything
He makes all the decisions in your relationship, yet when something goes wrong, it's all suddenly your fault. Ever felt like he always blames you for everything? That's one of the signs he doesn't care about you or your feelings anymore.
Fights and disagreements are a normal thing in a relationship. But if you two fight over little things and he always finds a way to blame you for it, then he's not interested in keeping a happy relationship. There's even a possibility that he's manipulating you to make you feel bad. If he does this, then he definitely doesn't deserve you.
7. He never tries to make things work
A clear sign that a guy doesn't care about his girlfriend is when he just doesn't make an effort to maintain the relationship. He never calls, he never wants to communicate, and he doesn't even want to listen to you. If he's nonchalant, then he doesn't care about you or the future of this relationship.
In an equal partnership, both parties have to put effort into maintaining the relationship. Trying to do it alone simply won't be enough to maintain the bond. Instead, it will only drain you physically and emotionally. Remember, you deserve to be in a happy and healthy relationship. If this guy can't help make that a reality, then he's not worth your time.
8. He never listens
One of the signs he is not concerned to maintain the connection includes all those times he doesn't listen to you. Communication is the key to a successful union and both parties should be good listeners for each other. If he doesn't listen to you, that means he doesn't respect you and doesn't care about maintaining a healthy relationship.
Of course, every now and then, it's possible for him to be too tired to listen. But if he does this all the time, that means he's not interested in your life nor the partnership. Remember, you deserve someone who loves and cares about you. You deserve to have a happy relationship.
9. He doesn't want to talk about the future
In a happy relationship, couples usually love to talk about their future together. Maybe plan to have a house of your own and talk about future pets and children. But if your partner does everything in his ability to avoid talking about his future with you, maybe he doesn't want to be in this partnership anymore.
When you start talking about the future of the relationship, he changes the subject. When you talk about your future plans and goals, he flinches and is suddenly busy with something. You need to realize that when this is a pattern, then your association is going nowhere.
10. The relationship is draining your energy and emotions
A relationship isn't always rainbows and sunshine, but it shouldn't feel exhausting to maintain either. Each partner must give something emotionally, physically, and/or financially for the relationship to be successful. Doing all the work on your own will not be enough to maintain it and doing so will only drain you.
When you begin to feel exhausted just to be with him, that's a sign that he doesn't care about you. Even worse, if you feel like he doesn't appreciate your effort, then he's not interested in improving the relationship. The feelings are no longer there and you shouldn't have to drain yourself to be with him. You deserve better.
Takeaway Message
Feeling changes in your boyfriend's behavior lately? If those changes match up with the signs he doesn't care about the relationship, then you must be confused and on the fence right now. The first thing you need to do is calm down and communicate with him. In the end, the decision is in your hands, whether you wish to try and save the relationship or break things up. We wish you the best of luck.