Chances are, you either stumbled upon this post accidentally (which doesn't happen often) or you came here to seek an answer to the following question: "Is he a player?" Perhaps it has bothered you for a long time. Either way, you are most welcome to glean information from this article.
Being a player has little to do with one's physical beauty, financial status or job. It's a deceitful way of life which hurts the people who are unfamiliar with it. So, for you to confirm the authenticity of your gut's feeling that a guy is playing you, you should be familiar with the signs that indicate he is a player.
1. He Finds Great Pleasure in Habitual Flirting
Any guy who enjoys flirting with women - irrespective of where he sees them - is a player. In fact, we can say with confidence that one of the reasons you fell for him is because he flirted with you. His obsession with women motivates him to initiate chats and, subsequently, the exchange of phone numbers with them. So, if he is comfortable flirting with women, you need no prophecy to figure out that your man is a player.
2. He Wants No Commitment With You
If a man has other women who he can get cozy with at any time he wishes, he won't want to commit to an exclusively monogamous relationship. Even if he has no other woman at the moment, committing to you in a long term relationship will ruin his prospect of meeting new girls. So, if he is still elusive with his decision to settle down with you, he is a player.
3. His Desire for Women Keeps Him Moving
A player has an insatiable desire to get under skirts whenever he feels like it. When he becomes bored with a job or location due to a lack of new women, he will decide to move. By hopping from one job or location to another on impulse, this guy showcases that he is inconsistent and can't create a secure future for himself, let alone with you.
4. He Is a Regular Liar
Naturally, we are all prone to tell a lie or two to protect our interests. But for a player, lying is a language second to his mother tongue. He can lie to you about his relationship status, age, family and job. Some players even lie about their names. Also, he will cook up stories to cover his tracks, giving the false impression that he belongs to you. At this juncture, acting on your gut feelings will help you escape from this glib liar. Otherwise, you are in for slow-motion destruction.
5. You Don't Know His Friends
It's possible you've introduced most of your girlfriends to him. However, on his part, he is reluctant to introduce his pals to you. This might be because introducing you to his friends would mean trouble for him since he is an unrepentant player. If he is kind enough, he can acquaint you with his fellow player-friend who will cover his back when the need arises.
6. He Isn't Big at Showing His Emotions
This guy is your dream man: handsome, smooth-talking, caring and romantic. But you feel that your dream man has a wall surrounding his emotions. For each time you attempt to stir his emotions, he goes blank. The reason for that barrier is that he doesn't want to commit to one woman. So, he locks up coldly to protect his emotions and vulnerabilities from showing. Consequently, nothing you do can break him.
7. He Likes Meeting You in His House or Yours
It's a fact that a player has lots of skeletons in his closet. To avoid ruining his game by walking into one of his latest catches, he will prefer dating you indoors. On your part, you've discovered that you have no real outside dates like normal couples - not even a walk in the park. Even during the times, you hang out at home, there's no intimate connection through deep and honest discussions. All that he wants is sex, sex, and more sex with you.
8. He Is Secretive With You
A player wouldn't reveal his itineraries to you. Somehow, he has managed to convince you that his movements are not important for you to know. In addition to that, he locks his phone with an unknown passcode, and when you do finally manage to look through his phone, you don't see any chat or call history, even though he often chats or talks on his phone.
9. He Ghosts You
We are all familiar with this cold treatment where a guy disappears for months, then to reappear with a "Hi, dear!" text. When this is coming from someone you are dating, he is either a player or a joker.
10. He Prefers Phone Dating Over Face to Face Dating
This is obvious. A player has a multitude of women who he wouldn't want you to meet in a fancy restaurant or cinema. So, he will subscribe to dating you via phone chats and calls.
11. He Doesn't Care About How You Feel
The narcissistic nature of a player doesn't give him the room to care about how his actions or inactions affect you. That is clear evidence that he's a player.
Unless you can condone the lifestyle of a player, it's best to extract yourself from the relationship you are having with him. Certainly, he isn't going to change his playing ways overnight, regardless of all the evidence against him.