After meeting your potential love interest, you want to know as much as you can about them. You ask them several questions that you feel can drive your interest in them. It does not matter whether your partner is a co-worker, friend, or even a neighbor. It is important to know who you are dealing with to see if they are the right person for you.
There are many "get to know you" questions that you can ask to understand your date. Sometimes it may feel like you are interrogating someone, but it may be costly to associate someone you do not know. It is still adventurous to get to know someone and learn about each other. Funny and silly questions add to the thrill of your interaction in a natural, relaxed setup.
How to Start
It is important to create a good atmosphere to know your partner. First, ask general questions to get comfortable with each other. After getting used to each other, you can start asking personal questions. Thereafter, you can ask in-depth juicy questions to get to know someone. Always ensure you make it light by blending serious questions with silly ones. Here are three categories of "getting to know you" questions you can use with your partner.
Introductory/Casual/General Questions
Introductory questions are meant to create a good rapport with your partner. They are perfect when you have just met and you wish to have an overview of who your partner is. Even though they are casual, they are an interesting way of creating familiarity. They include:
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Where are you from?
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What is your favorite meal?
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How often do you drink?
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Which movie title best describes you?
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What brings out the most joy in you?
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What really annoys you?
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Do you have a nickname?
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What do you like doing in the evening? Are you more into reading, playing a game, or watching a movie?
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What is your perfect way of spending the weekend?
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How do your friends describe you?
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Are you a messy or a clean person?
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Is your glass half-filled or half-empty?
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During your free time, where do you usually go?
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Do you have any fears in life?
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Do you have any fantasy?
Personal Questions
These "getting to know you" questions are best used during the second or third dates. You already have an overview of your partner's character. They are suitable if you have already decided your partner is worth giving a chance to be part of your life. Remember not to ask questions that are too intrusive. The questions you ask must focus on the person you have just met for the best results. They include:
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What describes a good life to you?
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What are the three interesting realities about you?
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Have you ever had any life-changing moment? What was it?
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What excites you the most regarding your family?
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Among your family and friends, what are you best known for?
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Do people think you have any weird behavior? What is it?
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Do you have any stereotypes you have accepted as part of your life?
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What is your greatest accomplishment thus far?
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What is the dumbest thing you've ever done?
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What do you think are the best and worst things about aging?
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What is the one responsibility you wish you did not have and why?
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Which scar on your body has the best story behind it?
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Do you have any personal rules and have you ever broken any?
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Do you have any plans to change your current lifestyle and what would the changes be like?
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What memory of you would you want people to have when you are gone?
In-Depth Personal Questions
They are very intrusive and reveal the angel or devil in your partner! You must be cautious when using these juicy questions to get to know someone as these can let you be misinterpreted for a creep. You already know your partner and you want the finer details about him/her. Asking sexually-explicit "getting to know you" questions may be counterproductive because they involve things that can only be explored when you have decided to go a long way with them. They include:
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What is the most romantic thing you wish your partner would do for you?
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How would you describe your love life?
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What happened to your last relationship and what would you wish for it to change to be successful?
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What qualities do you desire in your ideal boyfriend/girlfriend?
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How would you describe your ideal relationship?
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How long do you think you should wait for marriage after an engagement?
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What is the one you cannot forgive your partner if he/she did it and why?
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Are you still friends with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?
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What is the one thing that would make you feel insecure when dating and how would you handle it?
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Who are your closest family members and why?
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What is the one lie you tell the most and why?
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What is the most astonishing thing you have realized about yourself?
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Are you addicted to any drug or substance?
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What makes you look down upon other people and why?
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What is the creepiest thing you've ever done that ended up badly either for you or others?
Getting to Know Your Partner
Getting to know someone may be fun, but be sensitive to their feelings. You can adopt the "truth or dare" approach with your partner when asking "get to know you" questions. You need to read the mood of your partner before asking any questions. Asking raunchy questions during the first date might have you misinterpreted as a pervert. Take your time to know when it is right to ask a particular question.