Even the most passionate of relationships will change over time. It's inevitable that the excitement you both felt at the beginning of the relationship will cool off, while the bond of affection between you deepens. This is how healthy romantic relationships develop.
However, if it feels like the spark is fading, yet your relationship isn't growing in other areas, then it's possible that one person could be losing interest in the other. It's rare that a woman in a relationship will lose interest in the man she has been intimate with for some time, although it's quite common for this to happen to men.
Signs He Is Losing Interest in You
Things between you and your man used to be passionate and romantic, but now things feel cold and distant. He could be very busy with work or distracted by the problems he might be facing in his life. This may be why things seem to be so different these days.
Only, you are now finding yourself frequently wondering "is he losing interest?"
The signs we have described below are indicators of whether your partner has checked out of the relationship. It will also let you know for sure if he is no longer interested in being with you.
1. He picks fights
If your boyfriend or husband's patience for you has shortened, you'll notice that he might criticize you or pick fights. The little things about you that he was able to overlook before now irritate him.
He may complain that you call him too often or about the way you leave your things around. He might call you names or laugh at you. Either way, you can sense that something isn't right anymore.
Guys are usually the first to accept that there's no spark. In some cases, they will begin looking for a way out. Another reason why he might pick fights is the hope you'll call it quits and end the relationship so he doesn't have to.
2. He doesn't text you back for a long time
You used to talk on the phone for hours, sending cute little messages back and forth. However, now he barely calls and doesn't bother texting you back for a long time.
If he takes hours to respond to you, maybe he has been distracted by something more important. But when he doesn't message you for days or for a week, this is pretty much a sure sign that he's not as interested in you as he was before.
Sometimes there's no obvious explanation for this. Sexual and romantic connections are chemical, and this chemical can wear off at any time. If there isn't anything holding you together, like shared interests or a good friendship, it's common that the relationship will run its course.
3. He doesn't consider you his priority anymore
He used to make sure that he made time for your dates or would tell his friends that he can't come over, because you'll be around. But now, everything and everyone else comes first.
He can't see you because he has to work. You can't go out on a date this weekend because he has plans with his mate. He always has excuses for why he can't prioritize you and your relationship anymore. This is a clear sign he's losing interest.
4. He doesn't talk about your future
At the beginning of your relationship, you would both share your dreams for the future. You would regularly spend time describing your fantasy vacation, discussing a mortgage together, and maybe even talking about having children.
These days, you no longer talk about your future together at all. This usually happens because he doesn't envision you being a part of his future. When he does speak about it, the plans he's making doesn't include you. This is a clue that he's no longer interested in you.
5. Only being physically intimate when you're together
Did you ever really spend time talking? If you didn't take time to get to know each other through open communication, don't be surprised if your relationship has reduced to intimacy only. Relationships based on sex and not much else usually run out of steam after a while.
For any relationship to last, it has to grow and evolve. If you haven't been together for very long, and you still have not been able to move beyond your physical interaction, it's unlikely that it'll grow into anything more.
If he makes no effort to talk and is only interested in sex, then you can be certain that this is one of the signs he's losing interest.
6. He shows no initiative
This is a more common sign if you are in a long term relationship. His motivation to be an impressive partner is gone, and he shows no interest in thinking of anything to make the things between you better.
A man who is in love or still deeply cares for his wife will do what it takes (within his abilities) to make her happy. If you make it clear to him that he's behaving as though he no longer cares, he should make an effort to prove to you that he does.
Don't expect your husband to completely change and continue to show initiative, because the fact is that familiarity breeds complacency. It's not that he's no longer interested; it's just that he takes your love for granted. He knows that he doesn't need to make an effort to win you over.
So, not showing any initiative is sometimes a sign of him losing interest, though not always.
7. He stops flirting with you
Flirting is a fun and light-hearted way of maintaining the closeness between you and your partner. It helps with keeping intimacy alive and reassures your partner that you are still attracted to them. When you've noticed that your man no longer flirts with you, it might be the time to consider if he is losing interest in you.
The problem with the urge to flirt is that it's not something you can directly ask your partner for. It has to be inspired by your husband, and you have to make him feel like flirting with you.
If you've tried all the tricks you know and do all the things he likes to get his sexual attention, and it still doesn't get the response you want, then you might have to accept that he just doesn't see you that way anymore.
8. He treats you like a friend
If you and your boyfriend have gone from hot and heavy to warm and polite, then you might have lost the spark. This can happen in short to mid-term relationships.
It's quite easy to tell if the guy you have been intimate with is trying to move you into the friend zone. He'll stop being romantic and start talking about how you're "such a good friend".
This can be confusing if he's still initiating intimacy between you. Keep in mind that, as long as sex is readily available to a man, he will accept it, in most cases.
It is further confusing, because a lot of articles like these stress the importance of a solid friendship in your relationship, and this is important. But the friendship should be the basis, rather than the entirety of the relationship.
9. He becomes vague
You used to be open, honest, and share everything. Now your partner can barely answer a simple question about what he's doing today. It may not even be because he's doing anything suspicious or secretive; he just doesn't want to open up to you anymore.
Sharing the details of your life as well as your thoughts is a part of being intimate. When he stops doing this, then he's definitely showing you one of the signs he's losing interest in being in the relationship.
10. He flirts in front of you
This is no-brainer. A man that wants to be in a happy, loving relationship with you will simply not flirt with other girls, especially in front of you. If he does this, then you can rest assured that he's trying to tell you something.
It's much easier for a guy to simply behave badly than to have the heart to tell a woman that he doesn't want to be with her anymore. The guy may treat her so badly that the woman feels she has no choice but to end the relationship. Sadly, many women fail (or refuse) to acknowledge the signs.
Summary
If you notice any of these changes in the man you're seeing, you might consider it worth your effort trying to communicate with him or inspire him to bring the spark back to your relationship.
However, if you have tried and failed to regain his interest, it's best that you don't waste any more of your time. Find the courage to move on with your life. Try focusing on yourself and your own happiness until the right guy comes along to enhance it.