Nobody wants to be in a long-distance relationship but sometimes, certain circumstances call for it. You do not stop loving someone just because they have to go away for a business, work, and other valid reasons. It is hard to be away from the person you love. You have no choice but to give it your all and make it work. The key to a long-lasting long-distance relationship between lovers is in consciously involving yourselves to make it work using the following tips:
1. Communicate Regularly
Communication is crucial to making a long distance relationship work. Calls, texts, and messaging via messaging apps all contribute to the feeling of closeness with your partner despite the miles in between you both. Inasmuch as communicating with each other following, a definite pattern is recommended, it is best to limit it to calling twice a day, texting good morning and good night messages, and chatting on a messaging app as often as your schedules permit. Avoid incessant calls and requests for intimate moments when you know that it would be difficult for your partner to oblige. Moreover, the more unnecessary your communication starts to appear, the faster your relationship loses its appeal.
2. Do Things Together
You may wonder how that would be possible since you aren't together in the same location. But once the will is there, it isn't impossible for you and your lover to watch movies, sing, pray, play online games, or shop online together. All thanks to technology, it is easy to do everything you can with your partner, the distance notwithstanding.
3. Flirt
Girl, if you are looking for the fastest way on how to make him miss you in your long distance relationship, flirt with him! Speak to him on the phone with that sexy drawl on your voice that could floor a giant. Text him messages that playfully provoke his sexual desire for you. Let him know how much you miss him, torment his senses with the imagination of what you intend to do with him if he were with you, and seal it with a carefree kiss as though it matters little that he's not with you after all. Betcha, you'll surely get what you are asking for!
4. Send Gifts
Love is incomplete without giving. Admittedly, it doesn't always occur to long distance sweethearts to send gifts to each other considering they aren't in the skin to skin contact all the time. But if you want to keep a healthy long distance relationship, you and your partner need to cultivate the habit of exchanging gifts - and it doesn't have to be expensive but the simple, memorable ones.
5. Take Each Other Lightly
Yours is a technology-based relationship; you don't have to be much harder on each other than you would be on your phone or computer. Crack jokes and stir your humor pots with occasional teasing and light-hearted banters. This should strengthen your bond of friendship to stay true through storms of challenges.
6. Visit Each Other
This calls for sacrifice especially if you are living thousands of miles apart. However, no sacrifice made is too small or big for the happiness of your relationship. Create time out of your routine to pay your partner a visit, and they will never take it for granted. What's not to love in spending time holding hands, hugging, and cherishing every moment, knowing that the next visit in the nearest future isn't guaranteed?
7. Reassure Each Other
The truth remains that it isn't easy to do a long distance relationship. It requires tolerance, understanding, and maturity to maintain. Often, you and your partner would get doubtful and could start questioning your decision to walk this path. At that point, rather than bicker bitterly and get defensive, you should comfort each other with the reassurance of your love and commitment.
8. Share the Same Hobbies
A couple that has the same hobbies tend to stay happy together. This will foster a deep connection in you as you discuss and relish those hobbies. Nevertheless, you don't have to be hobby-siamese twins such that there will be no individual hobbies both of you have outside the shared ones.
9. Video Talk Occasionally
Apart from voice calls and texts/chats, talking to each other via video calls is a necessity in maintaining a long distance relationship. It's a beautiful feeling seeing each other's face while catching up on the pieces of information which would have stayed forgotten if the video call didn't happen.
10. Clear Each Other's Schedule
You are always busy, chances are, your partner is busy too. But if you are looking for ways to maintain your long distance relationship, you might have to crash out certain appointments to spend time with each other. Don't get so hooked on activities that it becomes difficult to give your lover quality time. Needless to say, there is a difference between just calling, and giving your undivided attention.
11. Be Committed to Your Relationship
This is in adherence to a set of laid down rules and boundaries that both of you are fully aware of. Commitment calls for self-discipline, keeping in mind that there is someone dear who is counting on you to do the right thing for your relationship. If need be, avoid certain associations that could compromise your commitment to your partner. It is much better to be a fool in love to preserve the honor of your relationship than lose it to frivolities.
12. Have Your Me Time
Just because you are in a long distance relationship doesn't mean that you become a prisoner in the course of making it work out. If not for anything, not staying close to each other affords you the time to enjoy your alone time, and to make meaningful connections with your family and friends. Learn new skills, discover new hobbies, and pursue activities of interest. When two of you grow and develop independently of each other, you are most likely to have tons of interesting topics for discussion. Also, it adds spice to your relationship, opening each other's eyes to the specialness you bring to the table.
13. Set an End Date for the Long Distance Relationship
It will be wicked of you and your partner to keep relating from afar from month to month and year to year with no definite plan on when to end it - either to seal it with marriage, relocate to be close to each other, or go your separate ways. This is what to do when your boyfriend or girlfriend ignores you in a long distance relationship: ask them if the end date for the relationship is at hand. There is no point going back and forth with each other when you have no plans of ending it for a closer distance.
14. Be Open to Each Other
When offended by your partner, let them know and do not bear grudges. If you are entertaining fear of the unknown or are horny, do them a favor by letting them into your thoughts. By all means, share your feelings with each other in honesty. Don't hold back, thinking that your lover will perceive that all isn't well with you for that is quite dangerous a ground to tread upon.
15. Trust
When you give your partner your trust, you expect them to give you theirs and vice versa. The presence of trust makes for a smooth sailing relationship and weakens any likelihood of a breakup. Though you aren't there to monitor their activities, believe them to be telling you the truth until they give you reasons not to. Don't make assumptions that could hurt them because you want to ascertain the truth. Be generous with your trust and have your peace of mind intact.
16. Involve Third Parties
This means that you don't do it alone; involve others in your relationship for good. Use their family members and friends as an extension of your love and care. You can set up a surprise dinner for your lover with the help of those close to them. Ask them to deliver gifts and messages from you to your partner; that does add zest to your relationship.
17. Spend Quality Time Together in Person
Rather than attend parties and pay visits with the rare times you meet face-to-face, hang out together or stay indoors relishing each other's warm company. It is annoying as hell when your partner chooses to give others most of their time and have only a quality goodbye to say to your partner at your departure. Nothing ruins the happiness in your relationship like being bodily present but emotionally absent from your lover given your irregular visits.
18. Remember the Little Details
Couples in a long distance relationship should never subscribe to habitual forgetfulness if they are to be happy together. Be observant; pay attention to changes in their dressing or attitude. Do all you can not forget your anniversary or birthdays. And when you make a promise, however simple, don't forget to keep it.
19. Don't Underestimate Your Partner's Feelings
Do not be complacent and keep things exciting. Boredom is a killer of relationships. Just when everything is going well, it does not mean you should stop pursuing or surprising each other especially when you are in a long distance relationship. When your partner opens up their feelings to you, list and don't make them feel insignificant. Listen and offer suggestions to help the situation. All in all, employ every tactic that speaks of empathy to prevent your partner from seeking help in the wrong places.
20. Resolve Issues Quickly
No carryover, no silent treatment, no face-off. As quickly as possible, settle your differences with apologies so that you won't have to pile up issues for any just cause.
Generally, relationships require mutual efforts to maintain; yours is no exception. Consciously applying the tips above will ensure that you enjoy the sweet adventure a long distance relationship promises.