When you have a crush on someone, you can find it difficult to just approach them and talk. Maybe you know a few things about him or her and you could strike a conversation. However, that would only disclose your real interest.
You can avoid such awkwardness by learning how to talk to your crush. Our tips will help you ease your way into your crush's world. Make yourself noticed, introduce yourself, talk, and ask them out. Use your skills properly to make a good impression and achieve your goal.
1. Gather courage and introduce yourself
Unless you have friends in common with your crush, you must gather the needed courage to introduce yourself. This is the simplest way to make yourself noticed. Sure, you could ask for the help of your friends, work colleagues, or classmates. However, you don't have to associate with anybody in order to achieve your purpose.
If you are too shy to approach them directly, then you could ask a seemingly innocent question, depending on where you are. Questions such as "Has the meeting started?", "Do you have any idea where the science section is?", "Is it still raining outside?", or "Did you have to wait long for that coffee?" are good questions to ask a person you don't know. After getting an answer, you can storm off and pick things up from where you left them next time you see them.
Otherwise, you can simply approach them and say "Hi. I don't think we've met. I'm Nancy" or "Hello, I'm David. Are you new here?" Your attitude should be friendly and casual. It's up to you whether you decide to make small talk or let things evolve naturally from there.
2. Greet your crush whenever you meet
Regardless of which method you picked to make his or her acquaintance, you should greet your crush whenever you meet from now on. A simple "hello" is enough. You don't have to try and have a conversation every time, especially because you should pick these moments wisely.
By greeting them, you help them get familiar with you, which is great because you want to create a pleasant environment for your next chats.
3. Pick the right time to talk
One of the best tips on how to talk to a crush consists of picking the right time and place. First of all, your crush should be alone. Second of all, he or she shouldn't be in a rush, before a class or an important work meeting. Make sure you two have a few minutes to chat. If you're wondering how you could possibly know, then we advise you to pay attention. You should also be a little sneaky in order to succeed.
An opportune place to talk to your crush would be a party. If you know him or her from school, work, or maybe a class you're taking, then there should be some sort of occasion for you two to connect.
4. Refrain from using any pick-up lines
After you've got your crush's attention, don't blow things out by using pickup lines. We're not saying that pickup lines aren't fun. Even so, you have to stand out with something and using cliche pickup lines isn't the way. Try to be your wonderful self around him or her. After all, you want them to be genuinely interested in you, not in some image you create for yourself.
5. Make playful comments and ask for their opinion
You can easily avoid the "me and my crush are awkward around each other" moments by making playful comments or asking for their opinion about something. Until you get familiarized with your crush and you slowly have more things to talk about, you can break the ice by saying something in regard to where you two are, for example. You could laugh about something a teacher or boss does, or something funny that has happened to you in relation to where you are.
Asking for his or her opinion on a certain topic is a great way to strike a conversation as well. Just make sure there is a connection between what you're both doing at that time.
6. Keep the conversation going and listen
As soon as you establish a connection with your crush, you can move on to more interesting topics. This doesn't have to happen on the same occasion. It would be best to keep things short at first, not to overwhelm him or her from the start.
Ask about their hobbies and interests. While you're at it, try not to disclose things you already know. Instead, pay attention, don't use your phone, ask follow-up questions, and be empathetic. Everyone likes to talk about him or herself, so you can't go wrong with asking. Pay attention, however, to ask open-ended questions that give your crush the chance to open up. Examples are "Have you been practicing this sport for a long time?", "What was visiting Italy like?", "What makes you curious about…?"
7. Compliments go a long way
Since you're in love, it means that you like a lot of things about this person. So, don't hesitate to pay him or her compliments. Who doesn't love compliments? Make sure they are genuine and not poetic. By this we mean not to use metaphors such as "Your blonde hair is like a flowing gold river". Those are too cheesy. Instead, focus on character traits or something you've noticed that is cute.
8. Befriend your crush on social media
After going through all the aforementioned steps, you can safely add him or her on social media. You two are acquaintances if not buddies already, so it won't be awkward. In addition, this gives you the chance to browse their profiles, like their posts and photos, and interact online. Also, you could use this opportunity to ask about how an exam went, or a work presentation, or a family meeting. Anything that he or she has mentioned before.
9. Ask them out
When it comes to how to talk to your crush, things should be clearer now. If everything went well so far, then it's time to ask him or her out. Don't think big though. Ask them out for a coffee or a walk during a lunch break. The main idea is to get to know each other.
10. Prepare topics to talk about
Hopefully, your crush will say "yes" to your proposal. Everything goes well and you two meet. Besides asking about his or her day, you should have other topics prepared in case of awkwardness. Refrain from talking about yourself too much and ask a lot of questions. You want to show interest, really listen, and connect. Examples of topics are his or her hobbies, traveling, family, hopes and dreams, favorite books, movies, TV series, sports, and so on.
In order to make a good impression, you should ease your way into your crush's world, not invade it. Make them notice you, talk a little, and have patience. Don't forget to show your true self while keeping in mind the tips mentioned above.