Breakups are the worst and sometimes they are not even final. After a period of reflection, your ex could make his way back into your life, sending you signs he wants you back. This could be something that you wish for, but it could also be something you're not prepared for. Either way, let's discover several indirect ways your ex could be telling you that he regrets the breakup and would like to get back together.
Signs He Wants to Get Back Together With You
1. He gets in touch with you often
When two people break up, they typically also stop talking to each other. It is the best way to heal their wounds and move on. However, your ex is trying to keep communication lines open. Sometimes he contacts you for common reasons, asking questions he already knows the answer to. Other times he sends you highly emotional messages talking about your past together.
Unless you both agreed to stay friends and chat periodically, you can take this as one of the sure signs he wants you back.
2. He mentions the good times you spent together
When he gets the chance, your ex talks about the best moments you had as a couple. He keeps reminding you how happy you were. By doing this, he is painting a positive picture in your head that will hopefully encourage you to consider giving him another shot. Or, he could be simply living in the past, allowing these sweet memories to overwhelm him. Either way, he is hoping for a reaction, ideally in his favor. The same goes if he sends pictures of you together.
3. He constantly asks other people about you
In case your ex can't speak to you directly, he will do anything in his power to find out what you're up to. In some cases, he will try to get more information from your friends and family even if you still talk to him. Marriage and family therapist Christie Tcharkhoutian says, "If your name is still coming up in casual conversations with mutual friends, they may still be interested in you/want you back." The simple fact that he asks about you is a sign that he would like to get back together. No one would go through all that trouble without a good reason.
Being around your friends and family could also make him feel closer to you. If he can't get you out of his head, he will keep in touch with your loved ones.
4. He offers to help
Your ex didn't turn into an altruistic person overnight. If he is offering his help, he is doing so because he misses you and would like to see you. He wants to show you how useful and involved he can be. Or, in case you already knew, he is trying to make you remember how good it is to rely on someone.
The point is that no one would go out of their way to help you unless they had a good reason. So, here's another of the signs he wants you back.
5. He talks about how he has changed
If your ex apologizes for all the mistakes he made in your relationship, it could be because he is trying to clarify certain aspects. Also, if he talks about how things could have been between the two of you and how he has changed, then he probably wants another chance.
When an ex tries to highlight the fact that he has learned from his mistakes and is now a more mature person, you can take it as one of the signs he wants you back but is scared. He might fear failing you again.
6. He gets jealous or tries to make you jealous
There are a few situations that allow you to observe whether your ex is jealous or not. You could meet him by accident while going out with another man. If he gets irritated or even furious, it's clear he still has feelings for you.
Conversely, if you find out that your ex got involved with someone else right after your breakup, it could be because of two reasons. He was either already seeing her before you two broke things off, or he hooked up with her, desperately trying to get your attention. According to relationship therapist Kiaundra Jackson, "If extra, public efforts are being made to show that 'they have moved on' or are dating someone new, that may be a sign that they are using that as a cover-up and they want you back."
7. He uses social media to get your attention
Relationship counselor Jonathan Bennett says, "If you notice that your ex seems to be stalking you on social media, whether it's viewing your Snapchat story or accidentally liking a tweet, it's a sign that you're at least on their mind."
Another way to figure out what's on his mind is to take a look at his posts. Are they related to you, to love in general, or are they depressive? "If your ex appears to give subtle references to you or moments from your former relationship on social media, it might be a way of dropping hints and hoping you'll notice," explains Bennett.
8. He calls or texts you when he is drunk
Drunk texting and drunk dialing are very popular ways both men and women choose to contact their exes. In a moment of weakness, they say what's on their mind and then blame everything on alcohol. The truth is that alcohol does lower our inhibitions, but it doesn't pull out our most sincere side. It just amplifies our emotional side.
While not among the sure signs he wants you back, drunk texting or calling is still a sign he thinks about you intensively.
Final Words
Your ex might not have the courage to tell you directly that he would like another shot. Instead, he is constantly communicating with you, offering his help, talking to your friends or family, or drunk calling you. Carefully analyze your relationship - whether the issue that caused your breakup has been solved and whether it would happen next time - and then decide if you want to get back together with him.