You've just had your first sexual encounter with a girl you've wanted to be with for who knows how long, and you open your mouth to say something. Don't act too quickly, guys. Those next words could make or break your relationship.
What will you say to her? You need to consider this, because it is likely to be terribly important to her, and you could easily blow it and wreck the moment.
Fortunately, we've put together some ideas for you, so you're not blindsided and mistakenly say something awful. Here's a short guide on what to say after sex.
"I'm lucky to have you."
Being cherished is a surefire way to make a girl feel good. Let her know you realize how lucky you are. She may be concerned you only wanted to get her in bed, and this is a chance to reassure her that is not the case. So, set her at ease, and let her know you feel lucky to have found her.
"I hope you like it as much as I did."
Let her know her pleasure is just as much a concern as your own. She'll appreciate your thoughtfulness. Moreover, you can even follow up later and ask her what she liked and disliked so you can be even better in bed together in the future. (As a bonus, women love communication.)
"That was terrific."
She may be wondering how well she actually performed in bed or whether the sex was disappointing in some way. It may seem odd, but girls can be a bit insecure, and they may be wondering whether they lived up to expectations. Let her know the sex was every bit as incredible as you had imagined.
You'll also find that building up a girl's confidence will make her more lively and prone to experimenting in bed, which is a perk for you for taking the time to build up her esteem. Of course, this goes both ways and is an excellent choice for ladies trying to figure out what to say to a man after sex.
"I just want to hold you."
A large part of sexual enjoyment for women is intimacy, or the mental aspect of sex. You can increase her pleasure simply by building that intimacy and love. One easy way is to cuddle. So, take time to hold her afterward and let her know you can enjoy the simple closeness of being beside her, and that it's not all about the sex.
Remember, intimacy is a give and take if done well. Treat holding her every bit as seriously as you did getting your own satisfaction if you truly wish to be an attentive lover.
"I wish we could do this every day."
If you are wondering how to say the sex was good, inform by mentioning how much you'd like to do it again. Sure, it's easy to say you like something, but the proof is in the coming back.
So, let her know you'd like to do it every day if possible. If you play your cards right, you might just get your wish or as close to it as humanly possible. How's that for a win-win?
"That was better than I even imagined."
If she was wondering if it was as good as you'd expected, take it up a notch and let her know that, no, it was even better. Few things will make you feel on top of the world like a lover being blown away by how good you are in bed.
Tell her she was wonderful in a way that expresses you couldn't even imagine it could be so good until you were with her. Make her feel like a sex goddess bestowing a visit to your bedroom. It will also encourage her to rise to the occasion to impress you even more next time.
"Your body is so sexy."
Women get a lot of pressure over their body image. They can be surprisingly uncomfortable with their own appearance. While she may just seem sexy to you, she can likely name off every single flaw she thinks she has.
It will go far to hear it from you that you see none of these flaws and only feel desire when you look at her. Avoid using blanket statements only, though. Be prepared to have to prove it to her and tell her what you think is sexy about her.
Here's a pro tip: Don't talk about her breasts. Focus on something that requires attention to notice. You might start with the color of her eyes or the shape of her lips. Be creative, but be sincere, as well.
Choose Your Words Carefully
If you're unclear about what to say after sex, then spend some time thinking about it, guys. A girl may remember your words forever. It can be a vulnerable moment for the ladies and a moment you can take advantage of to shine and reassure her of your good intentions.
So, don't let the opportunity slip away. This could be something you don't get a second chance to do if you miss the mark.