6 Ways to Respond to a Rejection Message

After the first date, we all anticipate that the other person will get to like us. Well, sometimes we end up rejected, and that's normal. You should never take that personally or get insulted. You never know the true reason for rejection, and in many cases, it doesn't have to do anything with you. If you've received a rejection text message, you should respond in an adequate way. If nothing, it will make you feel a bit better afterwards. Here's how to respond to rejection text in the best possible way.

1. Don't respond at all

When you don't know what to say when a girl rejects you over text, don't respond at all. It's not a very polite option, to be honest, but it is a form of an answer. If you really have nothing to say, why would you say the things you don't mean just because you think you have to answer? You can just delete that message and stop thinking about it, especially if you are the one who ended up hurt. It will be much less painful than trying to have a conversation with a person who you want to be with but can't. People suffer only because they think too much, and if you distract yourself and just forget about that message, you will be as good as new very soon. You are not obliged to do anything that will make you feel uneasy, so don't be hard on yourself if you simply don't want to reply. They will get the message anyway.

2. Ask them why they rejected you

Feedback is a very important thing, even if every opinion is subjective. You can always learn something about yourself from other people's criticism. You can send something like this: "Don't worry, it's fine. Just please tell me why you think I'm not for you. I would like to think about it a bit." This would be a suitable message because you won't seem pathetic or clingy. Furthermore, you will seem very mature. Maybe they won't be honest because they won't want to hurt you even more, but you should ask such a question anyway, even if you're afraid of the answer. Like I said, if you get rejected, it's not because you are not good enough, and you should never take it personally. Nonetheless, you can hear their opinion about you and think about it. No one is infallible, but we should all try to be the best versions of ourselves.

3. Show your good manners

There is no reason to be mad at the person who rejected you. If you think about it, you have certainly rejected someone else before, so, as you can see, rejections are normal and even frequent. This is the perfect chance to show your manners. Therefore, forget about blaming them or even insulting them. So, what to text back after being rejected? "Thank you for being honest with me. I truly respect that, and I am not angry at all. I wish you all the best!" Keep in mind that it's not so easy for them to inform you about their decision, so when they read a message like this one, they will feel great relief. Don't consider them a bad person if they don't want to date you, just don't fly off the handle and be rude to them.

4. Be cool

Sometimes it's better to hide our feelings, especially if you've gone to a date with a person you don't know well. If they reject you over text, just be completely cool and tell them that it's all fine. You don't need to write anything else; a shorter answer is much better in a situation like this. If you haven't fallen in love with that person, even better. And I really don't suggest chatting with them if you don't intend to stay friends afterwards. Just say that everything's cool, and what's more important, be cool because there is no reason for you to worry about it at all. On the other hand, if you are madly in love with that person, maybe it's better to hide it. Why make the situation even more uncomfortable by admitting your emotions? It's up to you to decide, but just by saying that everything is cool, you can avoid unpleasant situations.

5. Tell them you can be just friends

If you feel like staying on good terms with them, just say so. And if you don't, you can tell them something like this anyway, because it's just another indirect way to say that you're fine with their decision. If you two don't stay friends spontaneously, it's because you just don't suit one another, and that's okay. Here's what you can say: "Don't worry, it's fine. Why don't we stay friends? If you want to hang out, call me. I'll try to make some time for you."

6. Just thank them for their time

Even if it's just one date, that person put an effort in meeting with you. You should take that as a compliment, even if they don't want to date you. Don't stay on bad terms, because there is no need for that. Just say something like: "I understand. It's nice of you to let me know how you feel about this. I think you're great and I've really had a good time. Thank you for making time to meet with me." It's the most polite way to answer a rejection message.


Even if you're a bit angry, you should know how to respond to rejection text properly. Put yourself in their shoes and try to understand their actions. You don't even need to be completely honest with them. You shouldn't feel bad. If your story is over, don't sprawl it, just be done with it and move on. If you want to reply, then do it. If you don't, just leave them on read and don't bother your head. The most important thing is not to blame yourself.

Ana Djurovic
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Hello, my name is Ana Djurovic, and I am a writer interested in various kinds of fields, such as beauty, fitness, art and traveling. I am very curious and always in need to expand my knowledge. I enjoy writing because it's something I can fully invest myself in. I think sharing our stories and experiences is what brings us together.