Clinical psychologist Joseph Cilona ensures us that it is normal to have disagreements, as well as to get into fights with people we are involved with. In fact, his colleague, Ramani Durvasula, thinks that fighting in a relationship can be constructive. You can both learn from your mistakes, strengthen your bond, and practice empathy and listening. However, if the fighting intensifies, you don't ever seem to solve your problems, and there's too much anger for you to handle, then you might need a little help.