Your strength notwithstanding, cheating is a pretty hard blow to deal with when it happens suddenly and unexpectedly. Even though you shouldn't live a tightly wound life monitoring and policing her around, yet, there are telltale signs that indicate that your woman is cheating. You know, a cheating wife or girlfriend didn't start cheating the day she was caught red-handed with her panties down. She started way long before then, vibing out subtle signs only a smart guy can notice. Don't be caught off-guard in your case; your woman may be cheating on you if these attitudes are recent and habitual:
1. Lovemaking has been replaced with boring sex
Her interest in you and the foreplay you were professionally trained to deliver has thinned down. All she wants is for you to get down to business quickly with little or no participation from her, save for the fake moaning and premature orgasming she fills your ears with.
2. You don't feel her care anymore
You've always known her as the caring, empathetic woman who does everything she can to make you comfortable and happy. But now, all that has changed. She has taken on an attitude that pushes you aside without her hands doing it. And if you ask if anything is bothering or has offended her, she assures you that all is well.
3. She's become obsessed with her phone
Noticed she carries her phone with her all the time, and that never happened in the past? Does she text or chat away for hours, oblivious of your presence in the living room or bedroom? And when you are lucky to lay ahold of her phone in her absence, it has been locked with an unknown code to your disappointment? Stay alert! It's a sign your wife is cheating!
4. Staying out late has become her latest lifestyle
It isn't that she hasn't ever come home late. But this time around, the frequency is disturbing - it's either she's working late in the office, or she had a girls' timeout with her girlfriends.
5. No more family visits for her
When she declares that she wouldn't be visiting your family with you anymore (for no reason at all), it is a sign that your girlfriend is cheating on you. This is her detaching herself gradually from the people and places that matter to you for the time when she will leave you finally.
6. Her appearance has taken on a whole new level of change
It may be a tweak here or there on her bodily appearance, but a change regardless. Suddenly, your dear woman who hadn't at all been fashion-conscious has got you gawking at her sexy dress sense to the office. Don't get excited because she isn't doing it for you. Somebody outside is taking the glory.
7. Her wanton lies are just uncalled for
When you are doing the wrong thing that you don't want to be caught for, you do all you can to protect your interest. With lies. That's precisely why, recently, she is lying unnecessarily about everything and anything. Even if the lies are unconnected to her relationship with anyone, there is a good chance she's building on her capacity to protect her cheating lifestyle when it finally takes off.
8. She can go for months without asking you for sex
That's quite unusual for a typical woman unless she has been that way right from time. For a woman who loves getting down for sweet loving sex to keep away for long from such intimacy, there's likely somebody out there giving it to her on all sides.
9. There's a man whose company she cherishes more than yours
This one is quite obvious. We don't care if she tells you that nothing is going on between them because that's something that could happen, sooner or later. Haven't you heard of emotional cheating before?
10. Her response to questions leaves a lot to be desired
It is now a difficult task to extract a worthy explanation from her when you ask her questions. All she can afford is a yes, no response, no matter how deep the question. Which is simply bothersome because, as her man, you are entitled to certain information. Ruling out other factors such as work stress, sickness and mood swings, when you observe that your woman is hoarding information from you, don't ever take it for granted. Cheating could have a hand in it.
11. She's unavailable for family moments with you and the kids
Guilt makes a wife/mother avoid her husband and kids. The guilt of an illicit affair that wells up when she sits with you and your children in an intimate family gathering. To save her soul, she best avoids such moments.
12. She has forgotten your anniversary or birthday
Women naturally fuzz over memories, and so they can keep them locked down. So, if your walking reminder of a wife or girlfriend has, in recent years, been forgetting your relationship anniversary or your birthday, and she hasn't been diagnosed with amnesia, she's most likely occupied with something libidinous away from home.
13. ...Or, should we talk about the gifts she has stopped buying for you?
Well, she doesn't need to buy you gifts every day, all the time. But when the occasion calls for it such as your birthday, holiday season, or anniversary, it isn't enough for her to remember the day. Her gifts show that she is still fond of you. So, if she stopped it a long time ago, double-check her feelings for you.
14. She receives constant, unexplainable gifts from an unknown source
There is so much that calls for your attention here. Granted that she is free to receive gifts from her well-wishers, friends, and colleagues. But when these gifts are now coming in often from someone unknown to you, and who she gives a vague description of, it could be an indication that she is protecting her generous beau from you.
As we earlier mentioned, a cheating wife or girlfriend leaves a trail behind her. Only a smart guy will be able to detect that. She measures her steps and takes her time before launching into the cheating, fulltime. With the signs above, you are in a better position to get yourself prepared for the worst if, after trying all you can to win her affection back, she remains unchanged.